Los Lonely Boys

TO FEAR LONELINESS IS TO FEAR YOU.

I spent some time with a friend today and our conversations  went from one topic to the next.  Completely random conversations, not on any one particular topic, except one, being alone.  I am surprised, when this conversation comes up among my friends, nearly all of them do not like being and are scared of being alone.  Am I the only one that finds this absolutely insane?  My friends, are by no means insane, it’s just that fear of being alone I just have a hard time wrapping my head around.  Sure, there are times where fear is understandable, almost necessary, but to fear loneliness is fearing yourself.  

I have this belief that no one is ever really alone.  Sure, there are times where we FEEL lonely and perhaps those that fear loneliness are merely fearing the feeling of being lonely?  I never fear being alone, like most writers I do enjoy my solitude and keep a healthy balance between being an introvert and extrovert.  

When I explained my theory on being scared when alone, he flipped a gasket, which revealed to me that I hit a bit too close to home, here is my thing.
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I don’t think it is possible to go through life with the fear of being alone and question why that relationship failed, it is symbolic of FEELINGS and what we fear is not being alone, we are running from the FEELING not the fear.  It is when we are alone, we think, we ponder and we theorize.  To fear being alone, denying even the company of yourself, uncomfortable because you don’t know what to do when you are alone makes it absolutely impossible to know your inner-happiness and without knowing what makes YOU happy, makes it nearly impossible to recognize what makes others happy.

Los Lonely Boys… I just think we gay people like the drama and attention. OY VAY.

Don’t………

 

Wait for time. Make it.

Wait for love. Feel it.

Wait for money. Earn it.

Wait for the path. Find it.

Wait for the Opportunity. Create it.

Don’t go for less. Get the best.

Compare. Be Unique.

Fight your misfortune. Transform it.

Avoid failure. Use it.

Dwell on a mistake. Learn from it.

Back down. Go around.

Close your eyes. Open your mind.

Run from life. Embrace it. 

Time for Wordpower

 The most selfish 1 letter word — I — AVOID IT.

The most satisfying 2 letter word– WE — USE IT.

The most poisonous 3 letter word — EGO — KILL IT.

The most used 4 letter word — LOVE — VALUE IT.

The most pleasing 5 letter word — SMILE — KEEP IT.

The fastest spreading 6 letter word – – RUMOUR – – IGNORE IT.

The hardest working 7 letter word — SUCCESS – – ACHIEVE IT.

The most enviable 8 letter word – – JEALOUSY – – DISTANCE IT.

The most powerful 9 letter word – – KNOWLEDGE – – ACQUIRE IT.

The most essential 10 letter word – – CONFIDENCE – – TRUST IT.

Life Learning 101

I love motivational quotes, points to ponder, interesting facts and random trivia.  My friends bombard me with links, memes and videos almost daily.  I came across this one I posted on my Facebook a couple of years ago and feel compelled to share and feel free to reblog.  

I’ve Learned…

• That we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
• Something you do in an instant can give you heartache for life
• You should always leave loved ones with words of love, it may be the last time you see them.
• We are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
• You control your attitude or it controls you.
• My best friend and I can do anything or nothing and still have a great time.
• Sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you are down will be the ones who helps you get up.
• Sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be but doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
• Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them too doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
• Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you have had and what you learned from them and less to do with how many years you have lived.
• It isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others but sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
• Just because two people argue doesn’t mean they don’t love each other and just because they don’t argue it doesn’t mean they do love each other.
• You shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret, it may change your life forever.
• Sometimes the people that you love most in life are taken from you way too soon.
• You can’t make someone love you.  All you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to them.
• No matter how much you care some people just don’t care back.
• It takes years to build up trust and just seconds to destroy it.
• It’s not what you have in life that counts but who you have.
• You can keep going, long after you think you can’t
• There are people who love you dearly but just don’t know how to show it.
• Even when you feel you have no more to give a friend cries out and you find the strength to help.
• That our background and circumstances may have influenced our lives but we are responsible for who we become.

Well, there you have it.. What do you guys think?  I think that life is meant to be simple but our choices and influences and lots of other things we make it much more difficult than it should be.  

What do you think?

The First 10

Time, the whole concept is a dichotomy in life.  I mean, where is it when you want more of it and why won’t it slow down when it goes too fast?  I suppose time is symbolic of life in general and perhaps we should just embrace it and quit looking for more of it or hoping that it slows down.  I’m pretty sure I’ll be okay without wanting to find more of it but there are times where I will definitely wishing or wanting it to slow down because I don’t like when things are moving too fast, like the first 10 days.

This past year seemed to fly right on by.  I did see lots of personal changes last year which can explain why it seemed to zip on by.  After all, in one year I sold all my possessions, said my goodbyes to all my friends and family and gave up all that I knew and comfortable with and moved to Tennessee and then later to Virginia, doing this all for a relationship that became an absolute disaster which found me moving back to California with all this taking place in a span of 365 days.  It is no wonder and should come as no surprise to me that time and life seemed to fly right by.

Hmm… then I had an epiphany.  Is time relative to how fast WE are moving through life?  The old clique, time goes by slow when you are having fun makes a bit more sense if we put it in perspective.  Well, I am still waiting for the answer to that question because if the first 10 days of this new year stands in as a benchmark with time being relative to how fast we move through life,  let’s just say I am in for another long year that will fly right on by.  Make sense?  It will if you look at the dichotomy of time relative the dichotomy in life.

Exactly the reason why life  in general is never easy to explain and even more so to understand which is why after these first 10 days I decided to quit thinking about life and time and start living life.  There is nothing wrong with trying to understand life but becomes a problem if you stop living life to understand life.

Time to start living and embrace all that life will bring and quit wasting my time on wondering WHY.