I spent some time with a friend today and our conversations went from one topic to the next. Completely random conversations, not on any one particular topic, except one, being alone. I am surprised, when this conversation comes up among my friends, nearly all of them do not like being and are scared of being alone. Am I the only one that finds this absolutely insane? My friends, are by no means insane, it’s just that fear of being alone I just have a hard time wrapping my head around. Sure, there are times where fear is understandable, almost necessary, but to fear loneliness is fearing yourself.
I have this belief that no one is ever really alone. Sure, there are times where we FEEL lonely and perhaps those that fear loneliness are merely fearing the feeling of being lonely? I never fear being alone, like most writers I do enjoy my solitude and keep a healthy balance between being an introvert and extrovert.
When I explained my theory on being scared when alone, he flipped a gasket, which revealed to me that I hit a bit too close to home, here is my thing.
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I don’t think it is possible to go through life with the fear of being alone and question why that relationship failed, it is symbolic of FEELINGS and what we fear is not being alone, we are running from the FEELING not the fear. It is when we are alone, we think, we ponder and we theorize. To fear being alone, denying even the company of yourself, uncomfortable because you don’t know what to do when you are alone makes it absolutely impossible to know your inner-happiness and without knowing what makes YOU happy, makes it nearly impossible to recognize what makes others happy.
Los Lonely Boys… I just think we gay people like the drama and attention. OY VAY.